Why is there so much judgement around sleep training?
As I scroll through social media these days, I see a lot of pressure and unintentional judgement around how people are parenting. Mums looking for advice are often shut down and told their baby’s behaviour is normal. How is social media impacting the way we parent and ask for help with our children’s sleep?
As I scroll through social media these days, I see a lot of pressure and unintentional judgement around how people choose to parent. Mums reach out for advice when they need help, only to be shut down and told it’s normal. Constructive advice is often shut down because someone doesn’t agree with your thoughts. It seems to be a chain of pressure down the lines of motherhood, of Chinese whispers declaring it will damage your attachment if you want to work on your child's sleep.
It baffles me because, in 2023, when maternal mental health is becoming more talked about and there is less stigma around seeking help, we still seem to be shutting down a large portion of women who are saying that they are not OK! So as someone who works with many different types of parents from all different backgrounds, I just wanted to clear a few things up.
Wanting your child to sleep more and seeking support to get it is completely valid and understandable. Sleep deprivation is torturous and you shouldn’t have to suffer through, especially if your mental health is suffering
Sleep training does not equal leaving your baby to cry! You can work on sleep without compromising your ethics as a mother. Your babies' attachment to you will not be damaged when working on their sleep
While sleep will come to all babies eventually, no matter what, the quality of that sleep will always be better if they are taught how to self-settle and connect cycles. Just as we teach our babies to breastfeed effectively, and they need to learn to wean onto solids slowly, the skills of sleep can taught. We need to stop the judgement around this!
Moral of the story? Let us celebrate each other's parenting wins and support each other when we are down. Not by telling someone that they don’t need what they are asking for, but by lending an ear and listening to them. Mum life is tough in this modern world of social media and constant societal pressure. But if we band together as a community, then I know we would be so much stronger for it!
We all have our limits and it's important to understand that someone reaching out for help is usually at the end of theirs. As always, please reach out if you would like any more clarity around this topic.
Sarah xx
Sleep: A biological necessity
Sleep is about so much more than rest. Did you know that getting your allocated hours in can lead to a reduced risk of serious disease? Find out more as we dive into the importance of sleep for you and your baby.
Sleep, just like eating, drinking water, and breathing is a biological function we NEED to survive. When our little ones come along and sleep goes out the window, it can leave us feeling pretty awful.
The United Nations (CAT), considers prolonged sleep deprivation a form of torture. And us Mums (and Dads) are trying to function for months, if not years without consistent sleep!
Sleep isn't just about rest. It is a time when our body repairs, our hormones regulate and new cells grow. Science states that adults who get 8 hours of sleep in:
Get sick less often
Have a lower risk of getting serious health problems
Can concentrate more
Find it easier to learn
These are just a few reasons why sleep is so important. Not just for us Mums and Dads, but for our kids too!
Don't feel overwhelmed or like getting more sleep is an impossible task. Getting more sleep can be a gentle process that we work on over time. If you are interested in finding out how you can improve your family's sleep, reach out today!